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How to Succeed and Overcome the Fear of Failure

How to Succeed and Overcome the Fear of Failure

Let’s look at what it takes to design a career of purpose and freedom that delivers both fulfillment and allows you to create your own definition of success.

One of the most seemingly benign (or to some people annoying) and yet incredibly powerful questions that I ask of anyone struggling to find their direction is:

“If you could do anything and be assured success, what would you do?”

I get many different responses to this question.

Some people launch directly into their current path and goal. They’ve got an answer at the ready.


Some people pause, take a deep breath and launch into their dream vision, which they clearly desire and yet [currently] consider to be impossible.


Some people make an uncomfortable laugh and tell me something seemingly impractical, such as a desire to become Superman or be the first person to land on Mars.


Others give me a mixed story that hints towards their dreams and passions but is oddly undefined.


And some, you might be one, simply tell me they have no idea, they just want a good job with a nice work-life balance.

None of these replies qualify as the “right” answer, because there isn’t a single correct answer to this direction.

However, each response is telling, and as a career coach practitioner, it is sometimes the light in the person’s eyes, their choice of vocabulary, they way they make eye contact or avoid eye contact when they respond that is even more telling.

A Common Denominator

A common denominator in nearly all the replies, even the person who launches directly into their current goals, is that most people don’t really believe that they can do or achieve whatever they put their mind too.

Most adults qualify their goals based on what they’ve been taught is practical, logical, and safely achievable.

Society has led us to believe that a happy life is an easy life and that security is more desirable than risk and  that the people who dream big and succeed are simply LUCKY and that luck is not something that can be made or found, it just is.

10-Year Study on Lucky People

Happiness is not an Easy Life

And so, too many of us settle for a path of least resistance that meets our basic needs and that will supposedly deliver us happiness in the form of security, titles, and sufficient material wealth.

We are a “yes” culture that does as we’ve been told. We worry a lot about what we should or shouldn’t be doing or have or look like and then we wonder why, in our so called modern society, those of us living in countries ripe with freedom and success continue to see rising rates of depression and a culture that is terrified to fail.

And yet, life is not easy. Even those who succeed experience  pain and suffering in their lives. They lose loved ones, they fail, they get sick and sometimes they don’t want to get out of bed when the alarm goes off. Success and failure are both perfectly human.

At the same time, to feel courage you must also experience fear.

To win big, you must take a risk.

Happiness is not easy, hope itself requires that you’ve got a goal in mind that you are “hopeful” to achieve.

Hope itself even requires that you have a clear vision in mind that you know what you want and that you understand what you must do to achieve your goal, combined with the belief that you can make it happen.

So let me ask you this question and I want you to answer with HOPE:

If you could do anything and be assured success, what would you do? What is your desired life direction? Where do you really want to go? Who do you want to be?

Direction

What is “direction” and why is this question so telling? Direction gives us both purpose and inspiration, it helps us to prioritize what is good in our life and say no to the things that distract us or lead us down unhelpful paths.

Direction is a vision for who we are and who we hope to become. Many people have trouble with this question, because for so many years their dreams have been squashed, either by people in their lives or by their own fears and anxieties.

When a 40 year old answers the above question with “drinking cocktails on the beach” or “becoming an olympic gymnast” or anything else that is not grounded in reality, I hear in the response that this person is a bit lost and could benefit from finding her direction.

This person likely has a private dream or desire, but she is afraid. She is frozen. She thinks the effort or the money, the sacrifices or the special steps required to achieve this dream make it impossible. She lacks faith in herself and the universe and she fears what might happen is she tries and fails.

Fear

Humans are biologically programmed to be fearful, we are naturally inclined to display a negativity bias, to be watching for the lion or the leopard that might gobble us up around the next corner. However, in our daily lives, many of our fears are really “worse case scenarios” and statistically not likely to happen. Most of us don’t have lions in our backyards (except in Colorado, where I am from…ha!)

Our parents, our friends, our insurance agents and in particular our TV broadcasters set our daily programming to worry “what if.” We live in a society that conditions us to want everything and at the same time to give up before we start.

Why then do some people succeed? What makes a boss? I let you in on a little secret, the boss across the street or running that yoga studio or rapidly growing start-up  isn’t different from the rest of us in that she is invincible, perfect or that she lacks fear.

She is successful because she has faith in herself, she has hope and she has set her direction. She is aware of her fear, so aware that she identifies it and she sets a plan in place to step into that fear, finding her courage, making a plan, and forging ahead.

You cannot have courage without fear and vulnerability.

Permission

When we step into our fears and anxiety, when we push through to the otherside, we do risk failure, but at the same time we invite success.

John Lennon said, “Life is what happens when you are busy making plans.”

You can dream and plan all you like, but if you don’t take action, if you don’t pick a direction, life will pass you by.

But as John Lennon also said, “You’re just a human.”

So give yourself permission to be human. No one expects you to be Wonder Woman. You might make a mistake or drop a ball, but that’s okay. If you drop a ball, it means you are playing the game of life, not just sitting on the sidelines watching life go by.

Plan of Action

Which takes us to PLANNING and ACTION. If you’ve got a direction, if you’ve acknowledged your fears and given yourself permission to be human, then the next step to your success is to make a plan and take action. Even one tiny action per day can make a difference.

Baby steps lead to toddler steps lead to kid steps and so on. If you’ve got a dream, if you’ve got your direction, what steps can you take TODAY to make this a reality?

Whether you plan out your next ten years or your next 10 days — there are definitive small steps to take that will add-up and move you towards your goal.

Sometimes our direction or our overarching goal seems so big and complex that a useful trick is to work backwards. First identify where you’d like to be in 5 years (or 10 or 20!). Then identify where you might need to be with this goal in 3 years and then 2 years, working all the way back to where you stand with this goal today. Now that you’ve visualized your goal in reverse, you can lay out the ground work to move forward effectively.

What can you do today to move you towards this goal? Maybe it’s research, maybe it’s a phone call, maybe it’s signing up for a class or making a budget.

Now, what is one tiny thing you can do every day for the next 10 days, to move you in the right direction?

Reflection

An important part of achieving our goals and successfully moving in a direction that meets our hopes and desires, is taking the time to reflect and adjust. Indeed,  intentional living and cultivating long term life satisfaction doesn’t mean that you set your course and forge blindly ahead, never stopping to learn, listen or make adjustments. .

Note that I used the word reflect, not ruminate. You cannot change your past, but you can create your future. You can reflect on what is going right and what you could do better. You can learn from mistakes, but if you want to move forward to avoid wasting your time ruminating on your mistakes leave them in the past.

Reflection questions you might ask:

What have you done in the past that worked?

What might you do differently in the future?

What fears or anxieties continue to hold you up?

What have I done that has brought me the most joy/satisfaction/feelings of usefulness?

Am I living up to my vision for excellence?

Take the time to reflect. Even to meditate. And to rest.

Your Personal Compass

Remember that the direction — the path — you’ve chosen to follow is your path. And you can change your path. Perhaps you’ve spent the last three weeks or the last three weeks pursuing a particular path, but upon reflection you notice that you’ve changed or learned something new, maybe you need to modify your path and your direction.

That’s okay. That’s even good. Self-awareness, the permission to be human, intentional decision making are components of self-agency. Your path is yours. Set the direction that you want to go and define your own success.

Your success might be making enough money at a day job to travel wherever you wish on vacation. Your success might be to figure out how to raise your kids and work part-time or to be a stay-at-home-mom with no regrets. Your success might be to start your own business and never have kids, or to start that business in spite of your family obligations.

The Story of My Father the Artist

Every person is unique. Every direction is unique. What we all have in common is the desire to set our dreams in motion and make them happen. To step into our fears and to feel that rush of courage. To try or learn something new, to feel the progress and exprecience the progression in our life.

So, if you could do anything and be assured success, what would YOU do?

Please honor me with your hopes, as your advocate and your champion, I want to know. You can either comment below or email me, whatever you choose, tell me your answer!


If you want to know more about this subject and my story you can read “Who are you meant to be?” or my about page!

Who are you meant to BE?

Who are you meant to BE?


Who are you meant to be

I Challenge You to Design a Career of FREEDOM and PURPOSE

Who are you meant to be?

What are you meant to do?

Too often we leave our dreams behind somewhere in our teenage years, setting off on a path to please or on a path of rebellion, not necessarily checking in to listen to our inner wisdom.

From a young age, society programs us to believe that we are not enough, just as we are, that we need to BE somebody.

The result, it’s often hard to accept or believe that we are enough. As we grow the outside world is loud and our own inner voice harshly judgemental.


In reality, we know ourselves best, but all that outside noise and our inner critic make us afraid to listen to our inner wisdom.


When we come up with an idea or path a bit off the “beaten” career path, we often move straight from excitement into assuming “the worst-case scenario.”

When we take our ideas to our friends and family, it is all too easy to listen to external doubters, giving more weight to their opinions than our personal values, insights, and needs.

Add in unexpected events, challenging relationships or economic situations, and it’s no wonder that sometimes we find ourselves with a total lack of career direction.

If you sometimes feel like a sailboat lost at sea jostled to and fro, never knowing when life might bring the next big wave or storm, you are not alone.


Does Your Career Lack Direction?

A few years after the birth of my first son in 2007, I was lost in a sea of career confusion. My first big breakthrough came when I learned to make a distinction between activities I did because I believed “I should” versus because “I valued.”

I recognized that many of my career and life choices, even relationships, I’d made because society had “told” me that I should do them and I’d listened. The moment that I started to let go of “I should” and get reacquainted with “I value” I suddenly rediscovered a childlike enthusiasm for life and a sense of freedom that I’d not felt since I was maybe 8 or 9 years old.


Following my values led me back to school and into an experimental cohort with 6 other graduate students. Our “coach” as I’ll call him, Rich Male, led us through many interesting discussions and activities, but the one with the most significant long-term impact, was having us take the Gallup StrengthsFinder test (this is an affiliate link to Amazon; however I have no association with Gallup, only respect).


Own Your Story

I’d always been told that my “short attention span” for effectively solving problems and then moving on was a weakness. My parents wanted me to get a secure job and stick with it. When I did the Strengthsfinder, Rich said,

“Alison, you have the profile of an entrepreneur! You generate ideas and identify opportunities, you see the big picture and understand what strategy to implement. Don’t let anyone underestimate you!”

My life changed that day. Suddenly, what society told me was a weakness became a strength. I understood why I was so good at what I did and how to make that even better.

Knowing and understanding your strengths is crucial to long-term job satisfaction, as is doing work that lets you exercise your strengths, doing what you do best.



Dare to succeeed

Take Action: Work with a Coach

One of the most powerful reasons that you can work with a coach is to find and set your career direction.

Unlike your friends or family – a good coach will not judge you nor try to sway your decision in any way – a good coach will instead ask the right questions and support you with the best tools for you to find and understand your own path.

A coach is your partner. A coach helps to keep you accountable. A coach is a guide. A coach will champion your inner wisdom and hold the space for you to show up in the world the way you want to be.

Not ready to work with a coach? That’s okay. You can still start this important work on your own.

Online Career Tool Box

I’ve designed a Tool Box (FREE) to challenge you to get over your career confusion starting TODAY. The desired outcome of this ToolBox is to provide you exercises and opportunities to reframe your view of yourself and your career options.

Work through the ToolBox as you need to build stronger sails for your boat; learning when to put down an anchor and developing confidence in directing your own direction.

Indeed, I like to equate knowing your strengths to deploying your sails; sure, it’s good to see where you have a weakness (patch those leaks), but if you don’t put up your sails, you won’t go anywhere!

These short exercises and activities will help you to identify and engage your inner wisdom and celebrate your personal brilliance.

You will clarify your values, desires, curiosities, passions, and needs. You will align these with your skills, strengths, and experiences. If you need additional guidance or would like to work with a Career Coach, feel free to reach out to me at any time.

It is 100% possible for you to finally feel the experience of confidence and faith in who you are and what you do. This is totally DOABLE.


Meaningful work and a sense of purpose do take effort, but aligning your work with what gives you the satisfaction of being useful and having a self-selected direction, is immensely rewarding.


beat the tide, set goals!

What is your goal?

Tell me in the comments, email me, or dive into the ToolBox and figure it all out!


Master the art of working and living.

Master the art of working and living.

Doves of Peace, by Bill Border
Bill is my father and he has Mastered the Art of Living

A master in the art of living draws no sharp distinction between his work and his play, his labour and his leisure, his mind and his body, his education and his recreation. He hardly knows which is which. He simply pursues his vision of excellence through whatever he is doing and leaves others to determine whether he is working or playing. To himself he always seems to be doing both.

“Education through Recreation” by Lawrence Pearsall Jacks

The first time I read this quote, it was at the start of a chapter in the book Chesapeake, by James Michener.  I felt a sense of longing, wondering if I could ever achieve this ultimate example of work-life balance.

I printed off the quote and posted it above the monitor on my desk at work. I printed off another version that I framed and put on my dresser in my bedroom at home.

For many years I had no idea if the ideas in this quote represented reality or if they were just a dream, a work of fiction created by a gifted author. The answer to this question is complicated, and of course dependent upon the individual in question.

In my particular case, I’ve found that I’ve been able to craft a life, in which I’ve been able to find a balance between my work life and my personal life that indeed engages a gentle and playful flow existing between the two and that allows me to excel in the areas that I value the most.

Hope & Possibility

The good news is that since I first posted that quote and set the intention to discover the mystery behind it — I’ve made massive progress on a personal level.

For example, last week I had the honor to be invited to lead a group of LinkedIn Profile Ambassadors for an Executive Networking event with 500 RSVPs in South Denver. A decade ago I could have done the work needed and succeeded, but my inner anxiety, fears, and stress would have made me a grump at home, prevented me from sleeping well and possibly contributed to a little road rage on my commute.

This year, however, the event was energizing and as fun as playing a game with my kids. Teaching the ambassadors to assess and review LinkedIn profiles was an absolute delight. I enjoyed meeting people, answering their questions and even my drive to and from the event.

I did excellent work, and if you’d been observing me, you could have easily questioned, was I working or playing?

How did I get from where I was to where I am today? And if I did it, can you? Yes. Yes, you can.

Regardless of the unique situations of our diverse professional lives, the science of human flourishing, also know as Positive Psychology, has some answers.

A Crucial Distinction

Let us start by making a distinction between the following three words:

Job
Career
Calling

When we think of our work as just a “job”, the data shows lower levels of satisfaction, engagement and an overall sense of work-life-imbalance.

When we think of our work as a career our engagement and life satisfaction, our ability to juggle work and life tend to get better. Many people have “long and happy careers.”

The quote, however, best describes those who have found a calling. Engagement at work and personal satisfaction go up exponentially, even from the level of “career” when we start to see our work as a calling.

The problem for many of us, however, is that we’ve never had a sense of a true calling or purpose that aligns with our work. Sure, we may have a calling to serve, or we may have a calling to explore the outdoors, care for rescue animals or protect the environment, but we cannot align these passions — callings — with what we do for a living. I was once in this boat too.

So what can you do if you have a job?

Or how can you turn your career into a calling?

If you are lucky, it’s simply a matter of reframing. Maybe your “job” entails the work you intentionally went to school to study and then intentionally set out to find a “job.” Perhaps it’s just that you see your job as something you do during the day, distinct from who you are and how you live your life.null

In reality, it’s likely more complicated.

Since about 2000 we’ve been tracking workplace engagement in the USA, and 66% of employees report NOT being engaged at work. We’re good at something, and so we do it, we get hired, we get promoted, and we do the job. Inertia keeps us where we are, but over time we start to feel the pressures of life. Maybe we suffer from an unhappy boss, unfair corporate policies, or just from our lack of engagement at work. To us, it’s just a “job.”

Whatever your unique situation, and even if you have a career versus a job, the surprising thing is the same types of activities can help you, just as they’ve helped me, to achieve greater life satisfaction. Whether you work as a cashier or a rocket scientist, we can all move our compass in a positive direction. There are real and statistically significant actions we can take to start moving our perception of ourselves and our work-life balance from “stuck” to “free to be (or play)!”

In this post, I look at three techniques you can take to move your work satisfaction and your work-life balance or meter in a positive direction. We’ll look at Gratitude, Self-Awareness, and Goal Setting and how you can put them in action today.

Gratitude

Balloon Man, by Bill Border
Remember the joy you felt when receiving a balloon as a child? That is the experience of gratitude.
Now
what does that look like in practice?

The practice of gratitude is exceptionally powerful. But many of us get gratitude wrong as we confuse “being grateful” with practicing gratitude, so let’s talk about the difference.

Think of it this way: you can appreciate the smell of fresh baked chocolate chip cookies, but you don’t enjoy them in full, until you actually bite into the cookie and enjoy it’s texture and taste, until you have that little moment of savoring the contrast of the bitter chocolate and the sweet cookie dough side by side.

You can be grateful that someone just passed you a freshly baked cookie. Practicing gratitude is stopping and taking a moment to think about what has happened. Perhaps your boss, your mom, your neighbor made the effort to bake the cookies, had the thoughtfulness to put them on a plate and the desire to bring you joy through sharing the cookies with you. Awareness of all that you’ve just received is gratitude combined with a verbalized and wholehearted thank you — to the person and the universe — is the practice of gratitude in action.

Being grateful is the act of thinking “I am really lucky to have such great kids.”
Practicing gratitude is taking a moment to savor what it means to have your kids, to feel their love, and experience both their joys and their trials. Taking a moment to reflect on your gratitude, to write it in a journal, so that you can go back and savor this moment in the future is the practice of gratitude in action.

Being grateful that you have a job, when your neighbor is jobless, is not practicing gratitude. Taking the time to think about what your job provides you, from a place to go during the day, an opportunity to make an income, a place to practice your strengths or try new things, and a way to support your financial expenses in life, is getting to the practice of gratitude.

Another way to frame this is to go from a scarcity mindset to that of abundance. If you’ve just paid your phone bill, it is typical to regret the money we’ve just spent. But what happens if you flip it? If I’ve only paid my phone bill, it’s because I have a phone with service that lets me call my friends and family, surf the net, check my email, and do all sorts of things my grandparents never dreamed. Practicing gratitude for having my phone and my service provider suddenly flips my once negative bill-paying experience into one of gratitude and positivity.

Ever wondered why a monk that has nothing to his possession is so happy? It’s all a frame of mind and awareness of the things we do have versus a focus on what we lack.

Navajo Skies, By Bill Border

Awareness

The second technique for improving our experience of our work-life balance is awareness. Two kinds of consciousness can contribute.

There is self-awareness, which focuses on things like our strengths, be their personality strengths, characters strengths or simply things we are good at doing. Maybe you are really good at identifying problems and finding solutions; perhaps you are really good at seeing discrepancies; maybe you excel at finding opportunities for harmony or explaining how to get something done. We all have core strengths that often account for why we’ve ended up where we are, but over time we get accustomed to being us, and we cannot see the forest for the trees.

Organizational change and career counseling studies over the last few decades have shown over and over again that learning to recognize our strengths — turning our focus from what we do right and away from our deficiencies, improves not only our sense of well being, but it also improves our productivity and engagement at work.

Emotional intelligence, appreciation of beauty, a sense of fairness are in fact measurable strengths. Strategizer, individualizer, and developer are also descriptions of strengths in action. If you want to feel more engaged at work — find out what are your core strengths through an assessment such as the GallupsStrength finder — a look at what you “do.” Or the VIA Strengths Survey — a look at how you “be.”

An amazing thing about strengths is that we are all a mix of 5 or 6 core strengths and everyone is different. There is not a “best” or “worst” scale on a strengths test. What knowing your strengths does, is that it gives you the language and the confidence to understand how you tick and insight into why you work the way you do. Alongside an understanding of why folks you know do things differently.

From a positivity standpoint and working towards that work-life balance the best thing about strengths, is that once you know your strengths, you can get benefit from both focusing on improving your existing strengths, as well as, working on areas that you might be less “strong.” Indeed, identifying areas that are perhaps not part of your core strengths profile, but are things you value if you focus on “growing” these value points, good things will happen.

A look within, a focus on self-awareness naturally leads to mindfulness. And taking the time to be mindful of how we work, where we naturally excel, where we’ve worked hard to learn or improve increases our sense of engagement in life and work. It also opens us up to opportunities to grow and desire strategic change.

Painting 5 of the Carousel of Life Collection
The Carousel ofhttp://www.billborder.com Life, by Bill Border
Life is not a carousel that goes round and round. It has an end. Why wait for tomorrow when you can set your goals today?

Goal Setting

In life it is easy to go with the flow and just follow the path of most resistance; however, long term life satisfaction is directly linked to living with intention. Happily, practicing gratitude and cultivating our self-awareness opens up opportunities for us to see things we might like to change or add to our lives.

Perhaps today you have a job, but if you can connect your job today with your strengths and where you’d like to be, you now have the framework to set some goals and set in motion a plan of action.

Perhaps your job would be a career or a calling if you changed companies, maybe you’ve ended up in a toxic workplace.

Maybe, your strengths led you to a field of work where you can do a good job, but that doesn’t engage your passions.

Or, if you are a bit further along in your career, perhaps you started with a career or a calling, but you’ve been promoted up the line until you’ve ended up in a job that no longer utilizes your core strengths and causes you distress. Awareness of your strengths and an understanding of what you need to work on to better engage in your current role, can turn the tables and move you back to your calling.

Resources

Strengths Finder

Via Strengths Survey

Please note that I am not affiliated with either the VIA or Gallup Strengths tests; I share these resources because they are useful tools.

Need a LinkedIn Profile Audit? Let Me Roast You!

Need a LinkedIn Profile Audit? Let Me Roast You!

What is a LinkedIn Audit or Profile Roast?

If you’ve ever roasted a marshmallow, you know that marshmallows start out perfectly perfect white poofs of sugar. But when carefully roasted they please different palettes. Some people like them golden brown and others burnt to a crisp.

You are like a marshmallow. Perfect just as you are.

However, to effectively optimize your LinkedIn profile, you need to be able to communicate your perfection to your ideal audience.  With my LinkedIn profile roast, I’ll take your profile — your marshmallow — and roast it to please the palette of your target LinkedIn audience.

In approximately of 5 minutes of live recorded video, I will go over each section of your profile and provide you with an overarching assessment followed by 5 to 10 pieces of strategic and actionable tips to guide you to get the most from your profile.  

So, get out a pencil and take notes. Just kidding. I’ll send you my notes in a single page PDF report, in addition to a link to your video.

Who doesn't love a FREEBIE!!!

Once a month I offer 3 to 5 public roasts to members of the Digital Nomad Girls Community or anyone woman who is ready for a career change. Complete my Typeform questionnaire to get on my waiting list. First come first serve. Must be willing to have your roast shared on my LinkedIn feed. 

Are you in a rush or do you want your roast kept private?

Once per week I record private roasts with my actionable tips shared directly with you via a private video link and a single page LinkedIn Actionable Tips PDF report. If you are a do-it-yourselfer or simply can’t afford a personalized profile rewrite, this is an awesome way to high value from my experienced feedback, fast and for the cost of free minimum shipping on Amazon.

$30 per roast

Complete my Typeform questionnaire and I will follow up with scheduling and payment details. 

Why you need a Vision Board and How to Create Yours

Why you need a Vision Board and How to Create Yours

Why create a vision board? Visual imagery is immensely powerful in helping us to visualize our dreams.

That sentence is a tad redundant and I wrote it that way on purpose. It’s one thing to have an idea in your head. It is yet another to start thinking about what that “idea” would look like put in action.

And yet another to put it on a Vision Board where you can not only see it but imagine it alongside your life goals. 

Once you can visualize an idea, think about what it means to you and how it is is a part of your life, you become closer to turning that dream into a reality. Many successful athletes visualize success before events.

Creating a vivid and detailed image or plan is, in fact, part of successful goal setting, because doing so requires you to think through the steps and understand what is required of you to achieve a particular goal.

What’s more, creating a Vision Board that you post in an area of your living or working space where you can see it daily further reinforces your goals and your ability to achieve them.

Seeing something daily is both an affirmation and a reminder of our goals.

The Form of Your Vision Board

Today you can create virtual or concrete vision boards. I prefer the practice of creating a concrete, tactile vision board, because for several reasons. One is just because it’s fun to cut and paste. Don’t we all wish sometimes we could return to the early days of primary school where glue sticks and not computers dominated our daily life? Similarly, it is all too easy to get caught up in “SERIOUS” goal setting and making plans for the future.

Life should be fun.

Life is good.

Life is beautiful.

Have a little fun!

On a more serious note, ahem, the act of physically cutting, pasting, and designing your board is therapeutic and a robust tool to help make your goals and dreams a reality.

The first time I made a vision board, it was in a seminar run by Career Services at my Alma Matter CU Boulder.

However, it wasn’t until I read the Gifts of Imperfection, by Brene Brown that I really began to realize the gift behind the creative work for any and all adults, in creating a Vision Board.

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  • Poster Board:  22” x 18” or 24” x 36” (60 cm x 90 cm): can be white, corrugated cardboard, plastic board, signboard, whatever you wish, as long as you can glue on it, write on it, and hang it on your wall!
  • Glue Sticks: (clear) or fast drying glue paste of your choice.
  • Colorful Markers: I like Sharpies for ease of use and because they write on just about anything (my toddler has tested this for me).
  • Pictures, quotes, etc. from Magazines, Journals or News Papers.
  • Images you print off from online.
  • Post-it Notes or note cards for handwritten quotes.
Vision Board Function:

  • Give your vision and goals clarity.
  • Highlight your values, needs, strengths, passions, inspiration, and your available resources.
  • A functional way to reaffirm your goals that you can come back to and “see” for inspiration.
  • To keep yourself on track and motivated.
  • Allow yourself to be playful or creative: find your passion and inspiration, have fun!
So, let’s do the work. Create a representation of your vision. Cultivate and embrace your creativity. Have fun. Enjoy your path.

Again, I like physical boards for the “creating” process and because they are easier to hang/display for future inspiration. If you make a digital one, print it off when you are finished and hang it in your work/living space.

Vision Board Warm-Up

Answer the following questions quickly. Blink responses. Gut answers. Don’t overthink! Just Go! Grab a pen and paper and answer the following as a warm-up:

  1. What makes me happy?
  2. What is a quote that I find inspiring?
  3. What is an affirmation I’d like to use to guide me?
  4. Who is someone (real or fictional) who inspires me?
  5. What are five words my co-workers/classmates would use to describe me?
  6. What are five words my boss would use to describe me?
  7. If I could do anything for work, what would it be?
  8. What are my five biggest strengths?
  9. What do I do for self-care right now? What can I add to this practice?
  10. What do I want to achieve professionally in the next year? Go back to work? Change my work? Create my own business? Other?
  11. How much time do I want to spend at work vs. not at work? What is my personal “work/life ratio” for feelings of happiness and success?
  12. What do I want to achieve in my personal life in the next year?
  13. What do I want to achieve for my health in the next year?
  14. Where do I want to be professionally in 3 to 5 years?
  15. How do I want to live?
  16. What does my dream workplace/office look like?
  17. What does my dream home look like? Or what makes a “home” for me?
  18. How do I envision my ideal relationships?
  19. What experiences do I want to have that I’ve yet to access?
  20. What is my definition of success?
Supply Explanation: 

Find a big piece of paper, cork board or poster board. Minimum size (legal paper) but can be as big as you wish.

  • Unless you’ve got a big display space, I recommend a half-sheet or 22×18 inch (about 55 x 45 cm) poster board as the ideal size. Beware that if you order on Amazon, you might get a lifetime supply, although this will make it easier to update your board every year! Generally, you can find some poster board in the school supply section at your supermarket or Target.
  • If you’ve got lots of display space, feel free to go big and use a standard 24×36 inch poster board (60 x 90 cm).
  • Other supplies:
    • Scissors
    • Glue sticks (I like clear).
    • Fun Stickers (themes, beach, sparkly,  stars, rainbows, nature, anything that makes you happy)
    • Colored Markers (I am a fan of Sharpies because they write on almost everything).
  • Find your inspiration:
    • Magazine clippings or digital images (again, I like magazines, so you don’t fall down the black hole of the internet, but I also don’t want you to devote a day to find your materials.
    • Follow the path of least resistance. If you don’t have adequate magazines, print off pictures online or draft your vision board on Pinterest today and create a physical board later.)
    • Look for images (and words) that represent the three goals you addressed last week. Keep your Mind Map and goals close by for reference.

The Vision Board Process:

Once you have your supplies in place, look for images, text, and quotes that align with your vision and goals.

  • First, find a picture of yourself from any time in your life that you love. Maybe you are 4 years old at the park on a swing, maybe you are at university reading a book, maybe it was last week out with friends.
    • Whatever it is, look for a picture that aligns with your goals.
      • Maybe it shows you happy, with a twinkle in your eye, ready to go after the world!
      • Or maybe the picture is thoughtful, you watching the sunset or looking over a peaceful body of water, someplace where you felt calm and in control of your destiny.
  • When deciding what else to use, ask yourself:
    • What is it about the image or the text appeals to me?
    • What the story behind the image or text in terms of my goals?
    • Is the image aligned with my values?
    • Look for Images that show where you want to live or work (geography, space, architecture, nature).
    • Quotes that inspire you or represent your values or that are indicative of your goals.
    • Pictures that represent the steps to your success, what you want to do, learn or achieve.
    • Pictures that represent happiness, success, satisfaction, connection, your future.
  • Find as many images and texts pieces as you can. You might want to “over find” in the sense that when you start to construct your board, you will decide that certain selections work better to pull your image together than others.
  • If you find a quote or image that really “sings” to you then give it a central spot. Glue, paste or tack your images onto your board. Creating this visual representation of your dreams that you can go back to in a blink of an eye will keep you on track and motivated.
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Now Go Create!

Now that you have your materials and you’ve done your warm-up exercise, it’s time to sit down and get sticky. Have fun creating your vision. Designing your life. Living a life of intention. If you’ve got any questions, don’t hesitate to ask. And, when you are done feel free to share your vision board via your favorite social media. On Instagram, you can tag me at @Voky_Be On LinkedIn, you can find me at linkedin.com/in/alisonrakoto And on Twitter, I am @alibcandid.

Who is Alison?

I am a career coach and strategist that helps you find work you love.

How do I do this? Think of me as a professional grandmother. I ask you questions, I help you identify and celebrate your strengths, I provide you with guidance in setting career and life goals that will help you achieve success. Whatever you chose to do, I am your champion and I support you in chasing your dreams.

If you’d like guidance finding work you love or help with your vision board, I’d be thrilled to work with you. Contact me today and let’s set up a time to talk!

Do You Need Reliable Resume Writing Tips? Look No Further.

Do You Need Reliable Resume Writing Tips? Look No Further.

You need to know how to write a resume…

If only resumes could write themselves, you wouldn’t need to waste your time reading a book. But they don’t, and you do. Except that this book is not a waste of time.

This book follows the idea that one way to conduct a successful job search is to position yourself like a product or business with a future employer as your customer.

If you need a solid book on resume writing tips, buy this book.

Why You Should Read This Book:

 

The key advice or resume writing tip of the book (and I concur) is to primarily target your resume to ONE job, even if you can do multiple. As Martin says, “No one needs a human swiss army knife,” which is a headline I’ve unfortunately seen on a job seeker’s LinkedIn profile. Don’t be that job seeker. Read this book!

The author’s main intention is to provide you both clarity and a proven box of tools in your quest for your next (or first) job. He believes that as the most financially impactful document in your life, the biggest investment in your future is, in fact, your resume. Indeed, your resume will influence the job you get, and the job you get will contribute to your long-term income potential, so his claim is not so far fetched.

If you need help to find the best resume writing format and understand how to craft and follow your resume objective, this book is an excellent resource. When you finish the book you will be confident you know how to make a resume.

Why this book and not another?

This book is overall relevant, actionable and practical.

The techniques and resume writing tips shared are a mix of standard resume writing wisdom and over 40 years of resume writing experience, accented by powerful explanations and exercises help you to focus your resume objective and build a resume that stands out or “Knocks ’em Dead!”

  • If you carefully follow Martin’s advice and strategically implement it in your job search and to create your resume, you will learn a valuable life-long skill.

  • If you need a resume writing template, he provides multiple versions and styles. You won’t go wrong following one of his resume writing templates.

  • If you need resume writing examples from various periods in your career or for a career in transition you will find what you need. Martin provides resume writing examples from many different career choices and periods.

  • If you want answers to questions like what is the best “resume objective” and what is the best “resume writing format?” the book will deliver.

Originally published in 1988, completely revised in 2008, be sure to find the most recent version, so that you have the up-to-date and current information (this is a review of the 12th edition from 2016). Resume writing is a rapidly changing field and picking up a decade old book will not serve your goals.

 

 

LinkedIn: The Newest of Resume Skills

In today’s market, your resume skills need also to include writing an impactful LinkedIn profile.

And while I didn’t come across any errors or bad advice in the book, the only place I’d offer a critique is the author’s description of LinkedIn and how it is changing the face of the resume and the job search.

We will agree to disagree on the use of the 1st person versus the 3rd person in your LinkedIn profile. I appreciate and see daily the impact of 1st person LinkedIn profiles.

They are conversational and persuasive; when I read a profile written in the first person, I feel like I know the person.

That said for the purpose of optimizing one’s LinkedIn profile if you follow Martin’s advice you won’t go wrong.

 

Expert Advice: Resume Writing Services

As a resume writing instruction book, Knock Em Dead Resumes is a solid authority. You might read other material regarding how to style your content or discussing the use of 1st or 3rd person, but overall you cannot go wrong with Knock ‘Em Dead Resumes.

Martin is the CEO and Owner of Knock ‘Em Dead Resume Writing & Career Coaching Services. He runs his own Resume Writing Service as a certified professional resume writer and a New York Times bestselling author. So it shouldn’t be surprising that the book is comprehensive walking the job seeker through all aspects of job targeting and resume creation.

He’ll have you identify problems to solve related your target job, filling out a thorough questionnaire and worksheet that have you outline all pertinent resume content.

He’ll then walk you through creating a professional brand, identify your transferable skills and professional values and then figure out how to demonstrate your mastery. The book provides lists/examples and guides you through the process of putting it all together.

He provides insights and advice into techniques that are likely to bring you the most success. We are in agreement that a combination style resume is best in today’s job market (over purely functional or purely chronological).

He also provides a questionnaire and template that I highly recommend, the closest thing I’ve seen to practically sharing all his secrets as a resume writer.

One of the best tools in the book is a basic template to collect required info and pieces into a document (master resume) that you can later use cut and paste into your chosen resume template.

Who Will Benefit Most from the Resume Writing Tips in this Book?

The book is written primarily for those following a traditional career path but covers techniques to help those in job transition.

Sample resumes included are for:

Copy Writers

Web Designers

IT Professionals

Finance Professionals

Executives

Consultants

Managers

and more!

If this is your first resume or you haven’t written a resume in years, if you don’t know where to start or you are simply looking for a way to simplify the resume writing process this book will be your guide.

As an experienced and successful resume writer, I will endorse an investment in this book and tell you that tossing $$ at an online resume mill is a simple waste of time.  

Why? This book walks you through your work history, Martin asks you tough questions, he makes you do the work and the associated research to accurately target your resume. He provides the support and effective formats for different types of work and situations.

That said, hiring a strategic resume writer can be immensely useful, just be make sure to hire someone like Martin or me, who takes the time to walk you through all the steps in this book (or their own process) and then also provides you the value of their guidance and experience.

Buy the Book on Amazon Today!

Again: Don’t Waste Money On a Resume Mill

Resume writing is not easy nor should it be. If you want a job you love, you need to invest some time and effort in your resume and your job search.

A $150 resume writer might spend one or two hours organizing your work experience, writing a summary and tossing in a handful of “action” verbs to make you sound fabulous, but in this amount of time, it is highly unlikely that they will create a compelling resume.

Indeed, they will follow your guidance, and if you don’t yet know your own weakness, or if you have not yet taken the time to target your job search appropriately, your resume will still fall flat.

 

A better option? Learn how to do it yourself.

Buy this book.

Read it, follow Martin’s instructions and take a few weeks or a month to carefully and strategically write your resume.

 

Still need help? This book will help you write a resume, but if you truly want to invest in your career, hire a personal resume writer that specializes in strategy. A career strategist will do the work, will guide you, will ensure that together we accurately target your resume and your job search to find you success.

 

Tell me the best resume book you've read?

About Alison

Alison has interviewed, hired and coached 100s of employees. With over 20+ years progressive experience in hiring, training, interviewing and staff development, she knows how to maximize your resume and LinkedIn profile to engage your target audience.

On LinkedIn since 2005, she’s watched the network grow and influence the field of resume writing and the overall career search process. Want a LinkedIn geek? You’ve got one in Alison.

Today, Alison, focus on the writing of resumes and LinkedIn profiles, guiding and coaching her clients towards work they love.

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